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“You Look Like A Bottom” | Looks Can Be Deceiving!

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Looks can deceive and I had many of you fooled! First, let’s speak about the fact that judging a person based on their looks is immature as fuck. Second, I can look like a whole ass bottom and still put in more work than most tops you’ve ever had in your entire bottoming career.

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Let’s just call it what it is… Judgment within the gay community is very toxic and I mean TOXIC! We have many people making assumptions out of their ass. What you think you know, what you think you have figured out is wrong in most situations regarding somebody to you looking like a “bottom.”

This is something that I’ve had to deal with from day one. I came into the gay community being forced into categories and lanes outside of the ones I wanted to create for myself.

You look like a bottom…

You have bottom tendencies…

You’re not MASC enough…

Why you look feminine? 

Are you feminine?

You ever topped before?

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Yeah, that’s exactly what the fuck it is… That’s how I want it to be. I made myself look or come across like a bottom! YEAH. (EYE ROLL).

I mean the list of statements and questions regarding my sexual position is beyond annoying. I’m sure many of you, who are like me (in-between) feel the same fucking way.

Why can’t we just be great? 

Why can’t we just do what makes us happy by our standards involving sexuality? 

Why must I be forced to act a certain way… 

Move a certain way…

Talk a certain way to appease you? 

You know what? I see why a lot of “bottoms” do switch up and become “fake tops” and straight-up fuck these guys over. I get it now and it took me a long time to fully understand the mentality with a lot of gay men in the community. It took me AGES to understand why a lot of gay men think this way.

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I have never defined myself as anything other than just being ANTHONY. If anybody knows me they know I don’t do labels. The only reason why I may resort or mention a label is to explain something regarding the gay community in their terminology.

I don’t feel like labels are bad but I also believe that labels have created a certain division amongst the gay community. We should be FREE when it comes to expressing our sexuality. Nobody should be forced to ACT a certain way just to be embraced or accepted. People can have their preferences for how they like their man to be, but that doesn’t change my expression when it comes to my sexuality.

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I can be a whole ass top and queen the fuck out if I feel the need to do that. Why judge me if I decide to look more feminine than masculine or act as a whole ass queen? Does that stop me from sliding up in a man’s gut and fucking the shit out of him? NO.

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My personality.

Appearance.

Attitude.

Stance…

Should never define, who I am as a gay man or my sexual position/preference. If I want to look a certain way, that’s my prerogative.

We need to stop worrying about what other gay men don’t like and do what makes us happy. A lot of you know this already, but I see it all the time. Gays are out here pretending just to be approved or wanted.

I don’t care if I turn a man on or off regarding the way I come across or act. This is who I am and I shouldn’t have to pipe down, turn down, turn off my true being for your insecurities, lack of expression and close-mindedness.

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For every gay man that tells you, that you look like something that doesn’t register with your internal being — play them no mind! Don’t allow people to define you. Love yourself inside and out for all your flaws, imperfections and issues. You were designed differently for a reason!

It doesn’t matter if you’re feminine or masculine do what feels right to you and not what feels right by other gays. You can change a lot about yourself but if you not “whole” if you not complete “inside” then none of those changes matter. You won’t ever be happy if you focus on what other gay men find attractive or appealing.

So I want all you guys reading this right now to stop focusing on what other gay men say about you but focus on how you feel about yourself! Especially on social media, the lack of likes and hearts can cause a person to question their entire existence and it’s never that deep.

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How To Know When He Doesn’t Like YOU That He Only Likes The Bussy Or The D!ck

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I’m going to be as blunt as possible. I know this may come off cold but I gotta be honest about the shit.

He didn’t like you, wasn’t going to ever like you and only used you for the dick or bussy.

Yeah, I said it!

It’s so obvious and apparent that sometimes it goes unnoticed by y’all. Shit, I’ve been in the same situation — until I had to step outside of it and see the truth.

It’s never easy to come to terms with being used for sex. A lot of gay men are skilled at this shit. It baffles me when people don’t know when somebody gaming them.

So I created a list for y’all with all the tell signs. Things that most of you probably have noticed but ignored or tried to overlook for other reasons.

He’s Only Available During Certain Hours Of The Day (Mostly At Night)

It’s one thing if he’s working or in school, etc. If you find yourself dealing with a half-ass guy who only comes around for sex, you better run! It’s usually the easiest way to spot a guy who happens to be using you.

Most of you are so hypnotized by the dick that you don’t see it coming. Some of you have caught them in the act of cheating and being dishonest. It’s all about sex for him. Read in-between the lines.

The Only Conversation He Has Is Based Around Sex!

If you find the only most interesting topic of choice for him is sex then accept that shit. This is his way of letting you know, he’s not investing his time into anything more than that.

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I’ve been in situations where I would try to get to know a guy, but it would always lead in a different direction.

You should know where his mind is by his conversation and if his actions only equal up to sex than you a plaything and not the real thing for him.

He Talks About NSA (No Strings Attached)

If he tells you NSA only then you need to accept that. Don’t sit up wasting your time with somebody who doesn’t value it.

You have to identify his purpose immediately or else you’ll just fall into his game. No, you can’t fuck him so good that he’ll love you.

You can’t butter him up and gain more than his sperm. When a person shows you who they are believe them. There’s no altering or changing his ways, mindset or mentality.

After Sex He’s Nowhere To Be Found!

Have you ever dated somebody and noticed them disappearing after sex? I mean it could be for a few days or even weeks. Then all of a sudden they pop back up just in time to hook up again?

Yes, this should be also a big red flag that he’s only involved with you for sex. When he gets what he wants he’s onto the next piece of ass or peen. More than likely he has a few guys in the rotation.

There’s No Emotions or Intimacy Involved!

Have you ever had sex with a person and felt nothing from it? I mean like just straight penetration but no actual romantic connection or even attempt to be intimate? This is how things are for these type of men.

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They will have sex with you on a regular basis with no affection or emotions attached. It’s basically meaningless and it serves no real purpose. Most guys like to fuck just for the body count and ego.

It’s Always One-Sided!!!

This is a sad scenario but very true in many cases. You’re engaging in sex and after they get their climax you’re left without one. If a guy is into you he’s going to put the same amount of time into pleasing you also. If it took you over 20 minutes to get that motherfucka to blow. You better get your end of the bargain. If it’s only one-sided then you better make sure you see the facts. He’s not into you and he’s definitely using you for sex.

On the flip side, he may be the most romantic person in bed. He may be the one to help you climax before he gets closed to it. After the sex, he could go right back to being distant and disinterested. If a guy only wants to hang out with you for sex then you need to value yourself more. Your body should be treated like gold, not dirt.

You have to have standards and allowing somebody to use your body is sad. I will say we’ve all been used before by somebody. I don’t care how much game you think you got. You have been played before, so we all can take this L!

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Stop Lying To Yourself! That Man Don’t Love You!

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How many of us have stayed in relationships that we knew we should have ended moons ago?

I know for a fact I’ve held onto relationships that had already been over and I was lying to myself and hoping that things would change.

The problem is nothing changes and then we’re forced to be confronted with the reality which we still continue to deny.

One thing about reality is the fact that no matter how hard you lie to yourself — the proof will always be in front of your face.

Holding onto things that serve us no purpose only keeps us stuck in our own misery.

How many people you’ve known that stayed in bad relationships and everybody else knew what the tea was in their relationship? They keep making excuses, hiding the facts, pretending and acting as if everything is okay.

There’s no worse imprisonment than to be a hostage in your own mind about your own fucked up relationship. It can’t get any worse than that and a lot of us were there and we’ve played that role too many times.

Love will have you shattered and still picking up the pieces trying to put a broken glass heart back together.

You can lie to yourself but the truth will always hurt if you don’t accept the facts for what it is. It’s not going to hurt as bad if you face it. The more you run from the truth the more painful your journey will be.

I’ve seen people get STDs, walked in their home to witness strangers in their bed, received threats from random people over the person they claim they love. What do you get out of being with a person who doesn’t value you, let alone care about your well being?

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How are you going to fight for somebody that won’t fight for you?

Stop lying to yourself and face the fact that this man is no longer the dream man you’ve once met. We fall in love expecting forever with people who were only meant to be in our life temporarily if at all.

You can’t force a man to love you if he doesn’t even love himself. A lot of us meet these damaged souls and we think we can heal them and love them. After it’s said and done we end up being the ones who need the most healing. He’s going to leave you more damaged than what he brought into the relationship.

The more you forgive a person who not trying to change makes you the fool. Not a fool who isn’t wise enough to do better — but a fool who can’t see the facts as they are laid out before you.

We have to take responsibility behind the actions which we accept, tolerate and embrace. You’re abusing yourself every time you go back to that tormented soul. You can’t allow people to break your spirit because they are already broken. Hurt people hurt people, but you don’t have to be the one to accept their hurt as your own.

I know we often get caught up on the good side of the man and the good things he’s done in the past. That’s just a faded memory. If he was a good man then he wouldn’t have changed or switched upon you.

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No man will love you and then bring you pain willingly unless there is a bigger and deeper issue which he needs healing or help for.

Love yourself by getting out of any dysfunctional relationship. Because the longer you stay the more damage you’re causing on yourself. The best way you can save yourself is by not staying. If he doesn’t love you then let him go. Don’t try to stick around or get him to love you. If the love is gone it’s gone for good.

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I’m Getting Mine Before You Get Yours!

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The greatest advice any gay man has ever given me “get yours before they get theirs or you won’t get anything in return at all!” This is a lesson that I didn’t appreciate until I saw it for myself.

How many of you reading this ever been in a situation where you have made a man climax but he didn’t do the same for you? He found any and every excuse for why he couldn’t help you get yours too.

It could be an ex-lover or just a random fuck. You did everything to please them and they dropped the ball!

Stop fulfilling other people’s needs and start fulfilling your own.

Meaning: you can still please somebody but make sure you get yours too.

I would rather get mine first than last. I don’t care what nobody says. If a man is benefiting from my sex skills, then I better be getting one-off too.

Communication isn’t enough because I’ve been with guys who talked a good ass game — but couldn’t deliver their promises.

These guys will tell you any and everything to get theirs but will leave you disappointed when you expect the same in return.

We are the ones that fulfill our sexual duties and promises. Some of us talk big shit about the bedroom and also put in that work to back it up. Sadly it is the ones who put in that work that don’t benefit from it. These guys are lazy as fuck in bed as if it’s a prize to experience them.

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The shit should always be 50/50. If I’m fucking with you, then I’m expecting you to give me the same effort I’m giving you. I’m nobody’s quickie. If I decide to break my celibacy tomorrow, it will be with the right type of man.

Too many guys requesting a whole lot from others but slacking when it comes to their performance in the bedroom. If that dick or ass ain’t doing the job then the problem is you.

Sex is supposed to be enjoyable but if it’s more work than play then I don’t want it. Some of you gotta learn how to be selfish with selfish ass men. I don’t care if he did anything good during foreplay.

The moment it’s time for that big climax we both should be able to reach that peak! There is no I’m getting mine and you left to figure out how to get yours on your own. Don’t get me started on the guys that put in little effort to please you. Like are you fucking kidding me?

No more part-time pleasers, please! If you not here for the enjoyment of both of us then I don’t want any of it.

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