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Stop Giving Second Chances To Men Who Didn’t Deserve The First One!

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I don’t think it could get any more honest than that. Stop giving people who don’t even deserve the first chance, second chances!

A lot of us have been guilty of dealing with men that we knew damn well didn’t deserve us, but we fell into the shit, anyway. The relationship is toxic, drama filled, chaotic and down right dysfunctional, but we stay. We give this person a second chance because WE LOVE THEM. 

Meanwhile, this person continues to do whatever the hell they want to do even at your own expense.

When do we stop bullshitting ourselves and accepting the fact that this person is not good for us?

Every guy you think is worth a chance isn’t worth a chance fellas!

We giving second chances to men who don’t deserve one or even a single fuck from us.

We’ll do just about ANYTHING to hold on to a man that we know we should have let go of many moons ago.

TELL ME I’M LYING! 

See this is on my spirit and somebody needed this message today! Somebody needed to know that they can remove those chains off their wrists and ankles!

It’s never too late to accept reality and move on and do better for yourself. I don’t care what they tell you, what they have done for you in the past.

All good things don’t always end with good results! 

When it’s time to let go of something you have to let go or else, you’ll be the only one suffering.

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Some of you will give a man more chances than you’ll give yourself! Now tell me that’s a lie too.

You will allow a man to do you so foul for so long but won’t even forgive yourself for the most common shit you’ve done in your past. So how are we healing ourselves if we are doing more damage than good?

Nobody is perfect and there will be times when a man will make mistakes. After making a mistake once, you would think they’ll learn or know not to make that same mistake again.

Before you know it, they’re doing the same ol shit and they won’t change, why? Because they know you’ll forgive them.

Stop forgiving every single damn thing he does and demand change!

DEMAND MORE FOR YOURSELF.

A man will only do what you will allow him to do.

If you keep giving him chance after chance to get his shit right and by the ninth chance and still nothing has changed?

LET IT GO…

Get rid of that toxic energy out your life because there’s no amount of chances that will bring people around to doing right.

Sometimes we become too accustomed to the shit to where we’re willing to let it happen like it’s normal and perfectly fine.

I want you guys to know at this very moment that it has to stop. You got to stop expecting change after giving chance after chance. If a person have not changed yet, then they will never change.

Some of these men just taking advance of you because they know they can.

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PLAIN AND SIMPLE!

This won’t be the last guy to do it.

Put your foot down, demand respect and show yourself some as well. If you allow a man to walk all over you, it’s because you been walking all over yourself for a long time. You allowed them to feel like it’s perfectly okay to do exactly what you’ve been doing to yourself.

People sometimes fall in love because of the honest aspect of it and others fall in love for free gain and they know the game.

Don’t be played out here and giving a man second chances when they didn’t even deserve the first chance.

If you know a man ain’t shit don’t even entertain him. Let him go elsewhere while you remain single until you end up with the right one. OKAY!


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He’s Not Your Man! He’s Everybody’s Man Including Your Ex’s!

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I can’t stand when people wanna flash and flaunt their relationships when everybody knows the guy ain’t shit.

I’m not talking about the real authentic couples, I’m speaking about the couples who always in some mess.

If you know every and anybody has been with your man, then that’s not your man.

I’m sorry to put it to you like that… unfortunately, too many people claiming ownership over men who ain’t even theirs half the time.

You can’t be on and off with somebody and expect to be the only one he’s laying with or seeing period.

I know it sounds raw, but that’s the truth.

Most couples who are breaking up only to make up just for you to end up getting played out is silly to me.

For me, if we on and off then we not solving anything by staying together.

And more than likely you dipping your dack in somebody else.

I have a hard time believing somebody in a on and off relationship ain’t sliding through somebody else’s bedroom or front door.

These Gays out here trying to hang on, keep around or shelter a man.

If he’s not happy then let him go.

You can’t sit around thinking that you get special treatment that millions of other Gays don’t get.

Forcing something that isn’t there becomes problematic no matter how you try to pretend that shit is fine, when we all know it’s not.

They going to continue to do you wrong while you try to relive a memory that is no longer here for you to relive. Some things are better left done then trying to redo and recreate.

You know he’s not faithful and everyone around you knows this, so why you still lying to yourself?

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Why can’t you see that the man you got ain’t your man sus?

That man belongs to everybody! He’s not trying to be limited to just you.

Is what you should say to him every time he up in your face smiling and trying to sling that dack your way.

Some of these men fight and argue just so they can leave and do their dirt.

You still haven’t caught on yet, sus?

Some of you will stay with a man that ain’t good just to say you got a man. You’ll allow him to damn near do anything and everything foul to you, while you do nothing about it.

That mentality of having half of a man is toxic for many of you.

Instead of moving on and finding better you rather stay and “work it out” when there’s nothing left to work on.

Sometimes the work is done and over and you both still can’t walk away and move on. It’s all about growth and if a person isn’t growing with you, then you stuck with a dud.


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Fellas: Do A Fact Check On These Men!

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After my recent failed attempts with dating within the last year, I have started fact checking shit more than ever before…

WAIT ON IT…

We about to dive deep!

So let’s get deeper!

I mean, I’m the type to investigate that ass to the fullest!

I wanna know everything about you even the shit you don’t want me to know.

Too many guys out here are playing games especially online.

They will tell you any and everything and leave out the fact that none of it is factual.

Some shit these men say is pure bullshit and will have you questioning yourself.

Some of Y’all are quick to believe everything these men tell you. 

I had a guy lie to me about his entire life!!!

I’ve had guys lie about their status to their past dating history.

I’ve had men lie about having a job only to find out they were street hustling and escorting for TINA and Molly… 

What’s even worse is the fact I had an ex lie about having a baby on me!

I think another [ex] who lied about being in the hospital with food poison when he was really laid up in somebody else’s bed tops them all for me!

But a lie is a lie and a liar ain’t never ashamed to mislead anyone.

Some of these men (I take that back) most of these guys are professional liars.

They have been lying since day one!

They were conditioned to lie about their sexuality and even worse when it comes to their daily lives everything just filled with lies and fairytales.

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To add to the list of lies: They lie about their sexual position, their intentions and even their dack size!

There’s no telling what’s about to come out of a man’s mouth when he speaks to you. Especially when he’s been a liar all his life, that’s all he knows.

Fact check is important!

I like investigating and doing my little investigation on these men.

I check social media accounts even going as far to check in with your mammy and ex!

You gotta get a full ass report on these men out here otherwise they will straight up use you dry and drain you out.

We can’t sit back and trust everything a man tells us especially not off no dating app. If you meeting guys online, take every and anything they say with a grain of salt!

Everything he says can’t be all true even the most honest guys keeping something from you.

Some may say actions speak louder than words but even in this day and age people can show you one thing but mean something else. You can believe you in a whole ass relationship and really find yourself being played!

Trust all things know while believing nothing you hear without the PROOF!

FACT CHECK HIS ASS! FELLAS! 


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Y’all Be Giving Off Bottom Teas But Will Top Em All Down!

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Looks are deceiving so never get caught up on what looks a certain way because behind a closed door they may surprise you.

I love pretty boys who can give you that feminine energy while being able to buss down booty with no fucks to give.

Yeah, I said it. I like a “feminine” sexy guy who can put on that bottom look that so many of you criticize and he can slang the dack good.

Y’all be sleeping in the good dack because Ya’ll be chasing “masculine” or “straight-acting” ass men. Meanwhile, the ones who got the best dack be the queen’s Ya’ll always shading down!

For me, if it comes down to getting the dack, I want me a man who can handle the ass. I don’t care for a man I can just stare at and show off as a trophy.

Y’all really out here sleeping on some good ass wood. Trust me!

I remember like yesterday when I let my first “bottom” topped me!

Meanwhile Ya’ll with these tops who can’t even keep it up…

Whatever works for you but for me, I’m open minded and the more I explore my options the better my encounters get! Don’t believe me? Try something you’ve never tried and tell me it ain’t good after you experience it on more than one occasion.

I don’t care to hear about lesbian sex or you ain’t letting them climb your back. When a man got good dack, he got good dack! Get out of the looks department and peep out his stroke game!


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