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  1. Join Gay Men Of Color Club! JBA is exclusively me expressing my thoughts, feelings, experiences and more. But you guys are apart of my platform in more ways than just reading my articles and watching my Vlogs. I created a social club GMOC on my site for you guys to become members as well. I want you guys to join and be apart of the mini-community I’m creating on JBA. Create your profile, join the forums and chat room. Let’s discuss varies of topics. I believe in unity and having a supportive group that we can befriend one another and share our truths together. I would love if you took the time to register justbeinganthony.com/register and then join the group It’s my dream to build a mini-community for us to share our voices and experiences together. A social club that doesn’t exclude us from speaking out truths and standing united as a group of black gay men. So if you would love to be apart of GMOC def join now! Register on my site and then join the club. The good thing about the clubs and chat rooms is that you can create your own even private chats and also personal blogs! Don’t waste another second! Come on over and join and let’s build this mini-community of gay men of color social club.
  2. Recently, I interviewed Devin and Hymnosa who are both feminine cis men who are in relationships with other feminine gay men. As we all know the community isn't always welcoming of fem4fem freaky interactions, sexual chemistry or romantic engagement. For a lot of feminine gay men, having an attraction to other feminine men is against gay code. As a man who is in-between myself, I often deal with rejection from other feminine gay men regarding the fact I'm attracted to some of them. Being that we are in a community that is heavily influenced by masculinity and masc-seeking men, we often see this mentality over and over again. What I love to hear from guys is the fact that they don't discriminate or have just a preference for masculine men. What makes me even happier is coming across feminine men who are attracted to or involved with other feminine guys romantically or even just sexually. Let's dive into this FEM4FEM group discussion and you guys reading this join by leaving your thoughts in the thread. JBA: I'm so happy to be having this discussion with you because I been wanting to do this topic for a VERY LONG TIME! Nobody else would touch it or understand how passionate I am about being a feminine gay man who is attracted to other feminine gay men as well. Tell us how you came about being free-spirited when it comes to you being feminine and engaging with other feminine men? Devin: Thanks so much for having me, babes! I found out I was attracted to fem men at age 18, I had a very versatile relationship. We both were on the same level of masc and fem energy, there were no rules or expectations. It was pure judge-less love! However, after our relationship, I did find it a bit difficult to find others who were as free-minded, but it wasn’t impossible! I ONLY date men who are comfortable with their fem side, it screams confidence to me! JBA: That's amazing, let's talk about your current relationship because you mentioned to me earlier the fact that you and your partner are both feminine. So how did you end up meeting your currently boyfriend? And what was his initial reaction to you being as feminine too? Devin: Ray and I met through Facebook (modern dating [lol]), him and I Face-timed each other every single day for about 6-9 months straight and never missed a day. [Tbh] there wasn’t a reaction, neither one of said anything about it. That’s how I knew he was for me, it was that same judge-less feeling that I got from my first relationship. JBA: Oh wow that's the type of love story so many of us want. I wanted some advice from you. I think for many of us we don't know how to find that connection with another feminine man without fearing the judgmental aspect of meeting one. Devin: Yes!! If the connection is there nothing else should matter. Sadly in the gay community the first question you get asked is are you a top or bottom.....RUN FROM THOSE TYPE OF MEN!! Your relationship shouldn’t be about that! Sex is apart of a healthy relationship but it should rule your relationship. The gay community has to learn to let go of these rules and expectations to be free and date without judgment and stereotypes! JBA: Oh trust me, I AVOID those types of men at all cost! I find it extremely annoying as if they're waiting or expecting me to say BOTTOM because initially, that's how I may appear to them. I spoke about this before but I feel like if gay men stripped away the top, bottom, etc titles and positions then our community would have more success at relationships because we wouldn't be so focused on who's a top or a bottom. I think there's a lot more for us to connect on or be able to find interest in each other outside of the bedroom. I think sex often clouds all potential of anything becoming successful when it comes to dating in our community. Devin: You just said a mouth full!!! But fem4fem should be a thing, [tbh] it already is. I’m sure there’s plenty of men who are just like us but they don’t speak out! I would love to normalize fem4fem so everyone can know it’s OK to date a fem guy if you’re fem too! As long as the connection is there, nothing else should matter! JBA: Yes and I think we're bringing more attention to the subject with this discussion because it's not often spoken about openly. I believe Fem4Fem should be supported but also acknowledged. I find the feminine gay men that I approach often seem to not take me as serious or they automatically view me as a "gay dyke or fake top" for coming onto them. The problem I truly be attracted to them! [lol] Devin: See that’s the stereotype I’m talking about, they don’t know anything about you but they instantly assume you’re a bottom too. They don’t know if they’re missing out on some good loving and their soulmate! But I have been seeing the word “fem top” floating around a lot lately maybe that’ll be a good introduction to fem4fem. JBA: I think for me it's always my photos or vlog videos that reveal more of my feminine side with my mannerisms. In your opinion what would you say would be the best way for other feminine men to find other feminine gay men? Devin: Honestly it’s a hit and miss, you have to prepare yourself for rejection. Get used to rejection, either they say yes to the date or no. It’s not the end of the world, keep trying! There are guys out there who are fem4fem!! JBA: What are some potential ways for feminine men to find a balance in dating other feminine men? Like what ways could they connect without coming into all the similarities in the relationship? Devin: [TBH] the simple things will keep you connected, like going out on a date, music, conversation, life goals, basically things you guys have in common. Enjoying each other’s company! And both of you need to remember you’re both men at the end of the day and labels don’t matter, just enjoy each other. I feel as if fem4fem could be a real game-changer, fem energy is much more vulnerable and raw to me. I feel like it could be extremely groundbreaking for our community! I honestly think a fem4fem relationship is the sexiest shit on earth!! JBA: While fem4fem relationships are amazing what are some disadvantages you would consider that often or sometimes appear in your relationship? Devin: [lol] funny of you to ask, the only disadvantage is we both stay in the bathroom [lol] in a fem4fem relationship you both are always grooming yourself! You’ll need his & his bathroom at some point in your life! JBA: How do you think the community can be more open-minded to the idea of fem4fem without dismissing it without at least getting to know a person first? Devin: I believe we need more fem4fem representation in mainstream media! We need a couple or someone to look up to in a fem4fem relationship to show the public how incredible the relationship can be. JBA: Yes fem couples need to make some noise! Also, I think the image of fem is so misrepresented. Most gay men assume feminine men certain look but some muscular men are feminine but they are more tolerated due to their external image. Devin: Very true!!! Boys who wear makeup and girl clothes from time-to-time like to top too! BLOOP! JBA: When you first discovered your attraction for feminine men did your friends or other people look at you sideways for even expressing interest in other feminine men? Devin: Yes!! Most of my friends are fem, the kept calling me a lesbian of course. But as time went by they knew what to expect and they knew what I liked. I have a close friend who’s also fem4fem! He and I understand each other a lot! JBA: Oh wow are any of them single? [lol] link me up. What are some misconceptions you think fem4fem couples get or may encounter? Devin: [lol] They’re all dating! I think a lot of ppl think 2 fem guys together won’t work because of anybody masc, but that’s not the case. Just because both of you are fem doesn’t mean there aren't any masc energy at all! Devin: (Gotcha!) I also feel like fem4fem could be a masc bottom and fem too. I think ppl forget how versatile things can get in relationships. Also even if it’s two bottoms if the connection is there someone is bound to compromise. JBA: Let's talk about masculine bottoms and fem tops. Because I dealt with a masculine bottom who kind of used the fact that he was masculine for certain sexual acts that I wanted to perform on him. How do you feel about masculine bottoms who use their masculinity as a way of not being open to allow the fem top to do certain things to them in bed? Devin: I feel as though it’s hypocritical, nothing about bottoming is masc at all, let’s get that straight. If I’m topping you you’re not too masc for anything, that makes no sense [lol]!! I feel like it’s a red flag and you should leave that person [ASAP]. Ppl like to use their masculinity to bully a relationship mentally and sexually! This is a huge problem! JBA: Before finding your attraction for feminine men were you in a stage of feeling like you had to be with masculine men because that's expected from you? Because I know a lot of us to start out going off of these labels and what's expected of us cause of what other people tell us who we are and our position in the bedroom should be. Devin: Yes! When I was younger I did only date masc men, and I was a full bottom as expected. But as I started to explore myself more I knew that wasn’t 100% me! JBA: Let's get into that part because this is the problem we see all the time. We're often programmed into believing that feminine men must follow the heteronormative relationship or sexual position model. I believe the heteronormative mindset is the issue for the lack of diversity in gay relationships. Hello Hymnosa how are you love? Hymnosa: Hey yall! very cool to be part of the convo thanks for reaching out. JBA: How long have you been a feminine top interested in feminine men? Hymnosa: Probably for about two years, my story is long I'm not sure how deep you all want to get into it? Shit is complicated, you'll know. JBA: We can go as deep as you like. This is an open platform for you to share your truth and story. Tell us! Devin: Plz Do!! Hymnosa: I'm pretty small, I'm 5'5 with shoes on and you can see from my twitter pics I'm pretty fem of center, so it's pretty much always assumed I'm a bottom as a young person ( I came out of 15) I was a full-time bottom for a long time I guess because it was just easier and I never really questioned it and I had topped like once. Started out bi at 14 and gay at 15 and then I had a gender journey [lol] we know how that is. I have partner, I have been with him for 7 years who is a clinically attractive blonde haired blue eyed white boy with swoop hair and big ocean blue dough eyes and abs and is average height. He doesn't identify as "masc" he calls himself queer because that's more comfortable and kinda is uncomfortable with the idea of being cis but he is physically for sure more masculine and masculine-presenting than I am. Like I have visibly queer and visibly feminine and I get to read as such when I walk into a room and when I am on the dating apps. So a few things happened to make "fem4fem" happen for me I guess 1. I started topping more and got really into topping and started actively looking for bottoms. Oh we're both open/poly, by the way, [lmao] 2. I think it was a reactionary thing to the masc4masc culture because like, masc4masc leaves no place for me and is isolating and toxic. This hyper-masculinity obsession with masculine chiseled bodies, it just doesn't fit my lived experience as a queer person or a fem person or a queer person of color for that matter like it just didn't gel for me. But I saw it EVERYWHERE it gets exhausting. Devin: Whew!! I feel you on that!! Hymnosa: And like, the more time I spent getting to know people in a meaningful way in the queer community the more a lot of those boundaries started to melt like fem gays and fem boys and people on the trans spectrum is beautiful and valid. I think part of it was like learning to love myself and understanding that I am just stuck in this body and I will never be masculine or clinically attractive and I'm unique looking and I have to just own it and rock it let alone the whole racism thing in the LGBTQ community, we can get into that later [lol]. But like, fem people can also be my friends like, who doesn't want to have bomb ass sex and get wild and then like... cuddle and watch drag race and laugh and scream?! Like hello, that's goals. Devin: Yassssss!!!!! The BEST connection ever!! Hymnosa: The more I got into it and started hanging out with other fem and queer people the more this obsession about masculine bodies was like.... why??? what is the reason? And often like I get really weird and wild reactions. JBA: Yes the openness of being able to enjoy somebody while also having an authentic friendship is so hard to find but so much fun when you can just be yourself with them. Devin: It’s such a freeing feeling to just be accepted for who you are!! For some reason, I feel like the east coast LGBT community is so much more advanced when it comes to exploring and rebelling against the toxic labels that have been created!! Hymnosa: Yessss Devin that part! JBA: I have a question for the both of you. How do you guys feel about feminine gay men who "pretend" or put on a front with other bottoms of acting "masculine" only to hide their true self to entertain a relationship or even sexual encounter? Devin: I feel like they will NEVER genuinely be happy. Hymnosa: Honestly when I first started messing with fem guys I found myself instinctively trying to butch it up to feel legitimate! Like I had imposter syndrome and I was doing it without even noticing and I had to be like wait, you're a woman stop. JBA: Share that experience and the reaction once they found out you weren't masculine. Hymnosa: The thing is I'm outwardly just not masculine passing in the first place so it's obvious but like, I would find myself doing little behaviors and changing my body language and saying things that were way out of character because I felt insecure. Often on the apps or if I have someone's attention and they smell the fem, it becomes a different conversation, as to desexualizes me like I'm less of a sex object. So I found myself avoiding conversations about gender expression completely. And like I couldn't even have a deep conversation with anyone about it because if it came up it was dead in the water it became about like "You're genderqueer? You're genderfluid? What's that? Are you trans? Did you spend time living full time as a woman? How are you a top? etc etc etc". Devin: If ppl just erase all of these useless labels and just connect with ppl without judging, dating would be much easier!! I like u, u like me! Point black PERIODT! Hymnosa: And I feel like I've been waiting and waiting for fem4fem to become a thing in the community to balance out the scale and I've been waiting for like the queer people dating app or the fem4fem dating app to give us a space off of grind but everyone is on there there's no escape they cornered the market but I've been ready for the next thing. Devin: I’m 100% here for fem4fem! I would promote it!! Do you think the east coast is a more welcoming community for fem queer men? New York to be exact! They seem way ahead! And more verbal about being queer! Hymnosa: It depends on where you go, I'm on the east coast but I'm not in a big metro center gay populated hub New York is ahead of the ball by a mile yes, they have it figured out more than other places, but the queer culture there is so concentrated like everyone can't afford to move to a gay metropolis [lol]. New York is a small (expensive) oasis and I love them but like I'm in western Massachusetts [lmao] Devin: [lol] facts!! I visit annually! My fav place to be! JBA: How do you guys feel about masc4masc? Hymnosa: Here's the thing like, if you are masculine and you like masculine guys that's great have fun. But my problem with it and this relates to the racism discussion as well is like, people act like they have these individual preferences that they just formed because they are unique individual people. And they just like what they Like no, the body is political and queer sex is political. The porn industry and the media and everything we consume from when we are baby queer kiddos informs those preferences. People think they are so precious and individual their preferences were just mad in a vacuum, like no we have to go deeper. So if you're masc4masc cool but we have to start asking why in a meaningful way and don't use it as a weapon to bludgeon other queer people like you're superior because you're not one of "those" gays or you're not like that. JBA: What advice would you give to other feminine gay men who may be interested in getting involved with other feminine men but not sure how to go about doing it from your own experience? Hymnosa: Like the whole piece of the masc4masc tea that is centered around straight passing is so toxic and stupid and reductive. Devin: FACTSSSSSS Hymnosa: Thanks for engaging with me, both of you, I never get to yell about this and I had a lot to get out [lmao] JBA: I want to thank you guys for joining me for this interview! I hope you guys reading it took something from it. If you feel the same way, indifferent or completely disagree let us know. Join the discuss now!
  3. Nothing bothers me more than dealing or dating an individual who feels the need to lie, deceive and manipulate others to get what they want. This can be in the form of business exchange, relations, romantic interest, sex, etc. Please do not play a victim and then turn around and commit the very thing you claimed somebody has committed against you. It's like when a person who has claimed to have been cheated on, turns around and then cheats on you. You can't say one thing and then act another way. That's hypocritical and phony. I can not tolerate or accept a fraudulent ass individual. Unfortunately in our dating world, we come in contact with a lot of these frauds. A lot of these men present themselves to be one way but only turn around and show you their true colors with no fuck to give insight. I just dealt with a lying ass dickhead. He told me how he was interested in me cause I presented traits that he often doesn't see in other guys. He told me his ex did him so wrong and he lost faith in love. He has been in the hospital and I literally have given up my own personal time to comfort him. I made it MY BUSINESS to show him something DIFFERENT. This is the problem I have with a lot of these men. They want something good until they get it. Then it's almost like they don't know what to do with it. They don't feel like they (themselves) can meet up to the expectations and standards in which you have presented to them. They become insecure, unsure and completely incapable. The moment you show a person that you're truly who you say you are and deep down inside they know they're nothing that they claim to be. They will ghost, run, reject, deny and basically have a change of heart. Now they don't know a damn thing. They can't respond to your calls or texts. They nowhere to be found at all. What bothers me, even more, is when I discover the fact that everything you cried about dealing with you ended up being your damn self. You claimed you don't cheat but you were cheating. You made statements of being honest but all you ever did was lie and be dishonest. It's a game to a lot of these guys and they are willing to lose to win. It's a waste of time to waste time talking to a person when you know you're intentions are not pure. Nobody gets nothing from playing stupids games but stupid prizes. Believe half of what you hear and all of what you see. This individual painted himself to be such a good guy but ended up becoming a true monster in disguise.
  4. Hola como estas! Thanks for stopping by my exclusive blog. This blog is my personal, candid, raw, honest. unapologetic blog. Everything I'll write will come from the bottom of my soul. A lot of shit, I want to get off my chest, my balls and my spirit! I will be able to do that on here. There will be no SET topics at all. Sometimes I may rant and vent about my dating life, other posts I may be posting poems and random short thoughts. NEEDLESS TO SAY! Whatever you read on my blog will be intriguing and pure honest. Please don't be a stranger! Check out my blog posts and welcome to my world here in cyber space (LOL).
  5. Coming out of the closet comedy video...
  6. Just Being Anthony Channel Trailer
  7. Have you ever experienced being outed? Dealing with a relative, classmates, other gay men who want to put your tea out there. I’ve known a couple of people who’ve been exposed and it’s always a messy situation. I never understood the purpose of trying to expose somebody’s privacy. If it doesn’t affect them directly or in any type of way then why expose somebody else? Outing someone is dangerous cause some people will out you to the wrong individuals and it will do more harm to you than anything else. Exposing somebody’s sexuality without a warranting purpose is extremely dangerous. So let’s talk about this situation and what advice would some of you have for individuals who have endured being outed?
  8. I was having a conversation with an 18-year-old on twitter yesterday. He’s struggling with whether or not if he should come out of the closet now or when he's in his 20s. Besides the discrimination that he’s more than likely will face at home, church, etc he’s just not sure if it’s the right decision right now. So how do you guys feel about coming out when you're younger vs. older, and what do you guys think is the appropriate age to come out? There are some benefits when you do come out in your 20s, 30s, etc. But I still believe there are a few positive outcomes when coming out at a younger age. Everybody’s situation is different. But in y’all opinion which one is more beneficial in your opinion and also experience?
  9. At what age did you guys realize your taste in men changed? Whether if it was the fact you liked DL men and trade or just into a certain type of guy that you no longer would entertain today? For me, I know for a FACT that my desire for men changed at 25. LAWD knows the type of men I used to chase, deal with were totally not the type of men I would ever pursue today. 17-25 is, of course, a big age gap and for me, I had to separate myself from the person I used to be and all the things I once found worthy of my time, my love, and my attention. I mean it's only natural to grow out of certain types of dudes after a certain age. I just think some guys who remain in the same mindset or lack the maturity tends to settle for the same type. I would say those types of men are trouble because you'll never reach a certain standard to grow into finding a better quality of men.
  10. Listen at this point, I gotta be 100 about this and I'm sure a few of you will agree with me on this shit. I feel like so many people (myself included) settle just to settle. I'm not TAKEN until there's a ring on my finger. I'm not officially INVOLVED until we're living together and you have declared me as being THE ONE! A lot of you want relationships until you're in a relationship. A lot of guys say a lot of shit until they exactly what they're asking for and then wanna act like they don't know how to act once they get "him." Don't settle for these half ass, tired ass, some-timing ass men, fellas until they can prove themselves to you. We gotta stop allowing people to become our everything when they low key don't value anything in return regarding our time, our energy and effort. Stop making somebody your one and only until they BECOME THAT ONE AND ONLY. That takes work, that takes time that takes DEDICATION. If a man is dedicated to you then he'll put his words in places and positions to prove that to you. You won't have to ask him for it. You won't have to beg for him to prove himself to you. So from this day forward I'm not exclusively dating nobody until we're in the direction of EXCLUSIVENESS. Cause bae, boo, and all this other cute shit ain't cutting it for me anymore.
  11. These are the facts of the facts. I came across a guy on Instagram (who swears he is gawd’s gift to man.) There’s nothing wrong with loving yourself and having admiration for your good looks. But the truth is he still ain’t got a man and haven't been successful at dating for YEARS now. I can honestly say I know why after my own personal experience trying to date him years ago. The truth is he’s all looks but no substance. He is the reason why he's unable to find somebody because he lacks so much within all he has is his outer appearance to flaunt. For some reason, a lot of you think good looks will get y'all ahead but sadly to say good looks can also be some of y'all's biggest downfall too. There’s nothing sexier than a man who has good looks, a great personality and a lot of substance. But how many of you have ever met a guy with great looks, bad attitude, cocky for no reason, no personality or conversation skills and lacking substance period? ALL THE FUCKING TIME! You attempt to get to know them but there’s little to nothing they have to offer you in return. You try to take them seriously but they assume their sex game and good looks will secure your heart. There are a lot of beautiful but yet single men out there. Yes, looks are great but it will not secure a man period. I don’t care if you came across the most desperate guy in the world. Your good looks will only get you but so far with him. Even the guy I'm speaking about confessed to not being able to secure a relationship let alone have somebody take him serious enough to build something long term. SUBSTANCE is important. PERSONALITY is needed. If you want somebody to take you seriously regarding dating and building a relationship you need to offer them more than your looks sir. I know somebody reading this needs this message this morning which is why I'm writing this post. If you're somebody that could relate to this message take it and focus on some aspects regarding your own lack of dating experiences or issues with dating. Sometimes the problem isn't them the problem is very much YOU! So please stop thinking your looks will bag or keep a man. Yes, we all want us some eye candy but after awhile even looking at your cute ass will get annoying or even boring. If you notice you're dating life suffering due to the fact that you're not offering anything to anybody other than looks do some soul searching. Find out what you're lacking and work on strengthening that area outside of your appearance or sex game.
  12. like seriously just when I thought I’ve seen it all nothing seems to shock me anymore. Online apps brings out some of the strangest people and sexual requests. I’m not with the weird shit. For some reason they thought I was down for some strange shit but I’m not. like who ask this shit??? Just last week I had a guy ask if we could be committed within 5 minutes of exchanging numbers. I blocked him and this fool calls me from a block number for 15 mins straight. When that ends he proceeds to text me cursing me out from another number. Dating to sleep around or with the intention of marriage? Serious question for many of you... How many of you seriously date just to sleep around or to possibly settle down and get married? I would love to know somebody's approach to dating and the direction you guys plan to go in after seeing somebody. For some reason, most guys I come across date for all the wrong reasons. Some for status, a title, money, weed, and countless other superficial shit. I think when most guys say they rather "go with the flow" tend to already know it's not going to go anywhere. Meanwhile, they don't go with the flow to sleep with you. They don't allow time to tell when they want their dicks wet, right? So how many of you have picked up on tell-signs when a guy is just dating you for the sex instead of taking things further? Let's discuss this shit. I got a lot on my mind right now when it comes to dating and these guy's true intentions for "relationships."
  13. I’m the type of person who can remain “friendly” with an ex but I can’t say I’d be friends with him after we break up. One of the reasons is because I believe jealousy would show it’s ugly head at some point. I know it’s easier said than done to claim to be over somebody, but how often do we catch feelings again? Even when they’ve done us wrong. With feelings comes jealousy if they were to move on and find somebody new. Let’s say they moved on to somebody better than us or somebody who is complete garbage? So much comes into the picture when it comes to remaining close with an ex. So many good and bad factors. For me, it's a hassle and struggle. And the fact most men get with somebody new and treat them better, do better. Smh. Shit would become personal if I notice the difference or change in him with this new person. It’s one thing if I broke up with you on good terms and it’s under a mutual decision. But if one of us still has feelings for the other, or one of us cut things off. Somebody is going to be in their feelings low key. I’ll still wish you a happy birthday, send you friendly messages on holidays and pop in to say hello and see how you been. But chilling together, hanging out and stuff would be out of the picture. I would need distance to heal or move on properly. How do you guys feel about remaining friends with an ex? Is it crossing boundaries especially if one of you still “in love?” Do you feel like it’s a problem if one of you ends up finding love elsewhere? I mean what if the new person in your life or theirs aren’t kin on the idea of you two remaining in contact?
  14. How many of you feel this way about dating? If he doesn’t give head (sloppy toppy) than he’s not the one or worthy of your time? I’m sorry but for me oral sex is a must. I can’t engage with a man who doesn’t give it. Head is the cherry on the cake for me. I need it. I gotta have some type of oral play. I understand bottoms who don’t lick ass, but I got a problem if I’m with a bottom and he doesn’t give head. For example I had this one masculine bottom tell me he doesn’t give head cause it wasn’t manly! BRUHHHHH! He told me instead of giving me head he’ll spit on it. I told him if he got to do all of that he mind as well at least lick the tip. There are legit some guys (bottoms, tops, verse men) who do not enjoy, or know how to give oral sex. But if you’re not even willing to try it then we can’t go further than just talking. I don’t know, but head for me is a requirement for me.
  15. I think we all have this crazy weird but hot freaky obsession with turning tops out. I don’t know any versatile or even top guy that doesn’t have this urge. I mean we look at these men and some of these tops got phat assess. Look on myvidster and you’ll see people wishing for their new favorite “only fans” adult entertainers to get dick in the booty. When we see these tops lose their V Card it’s almost like a badge of honor to watch a dominant or male in a specific role become submissive. I can’t lie I find tops being penetrated as a turn on. For some men (I'm speaking about bottoms) they feel like it makes the top less masculine/desirable. Tops getting turned out is still a plus for many of us. I’ve turned out 2 and shockingly it wasn’t as complicated as most tops make it. It’s obvious there are some tops who not with and never will embrace or tolerate being penetrated. If you deal with those type of tops then find you a top that’s open minded with tongue play and finger massages and break him in.
  16. Am I the only person that noticing a major shift for adult entertainment as far as performers go? The average porn company seems to be struggling to keep up with the only fans content creators. Porn used to be something sought after but nowadays tube sites can’t even compete with these only fans creators. It seems like every day a new amateur porn star pops up on the scene on social media. The gag is the fact most of the porn companies content can’t even compare to these point-and-shoot iPhone and android amateur adult entertainers. Not only do we see these random newbies getting to the bag but we see some seasoned entertainers turning to the platform. So instead of these companies throwing penny’s at these men while they profit a fortune, these guys are ditching them. Which to me is a smart move but it makes it harder for us to find content online with big-name companies. At this point, it’s kind of over for these porn companies. I think BBA will still remain popular due to the fact most of the guys on his site are exclusive. thoughts on the shift and change in porn?
  17. What are some stereotypes about gay men that you just hate hearing or reading about? A couple of mines are: 1.) Gay men Are perverted and addicted to sex. 2.) We’re messy, full of drama, angry, violent and aggressive and loud. 3.) We want to be women and hate them. 4.) We always trying to steal somebody’s man or trying to turn out straight men. 5.) The biggest stereotype people have about us is that we all HIV positive or got aids. It just bothers me how people who know nothing about gays always have a negative opinion or even view on homosexuality. Even if they have that one negative experience with us or an individual in the community. It’s almost like they want these things to be true so they can justify their disgusting views and opinions about us.
  18. I have zero time for games or bullshit. Like seriously! I can’t stand these fake ass sugar daddies on these dating apps. I got bills. I got responsibilities. I got shit I need to pay! If you going to slide in my DMs be legit! Nobody has time for these fraudulent ass scamming ass sugar daddies. Don't hit me up talking about, do I want you to wire me funds? Noooo... If you going to send me the paper, dollas, guap then make sure you cash app me. scammers no scamming!!! It’s 2020 who the fuck ain’t on game? who really out here getting cat-fished over some fake ass funds and online scams? The only way we can verify these motherfuckas is to make them cash app us the money ASAP! I’m always available for a nasty donation. I don’t mind having a sugar daddy that’s down to fill my bank account up. For all these fake ass sugar daddies! No, we don’t want you to wire us any money. No, we’re not interested in you sending us a cheque. No, you can’t deposit shit into my bank account. I need for these foreigners to do better. At least spell check the shit. How the fuck you can’t even spell America right? Smh. The scamming game is done and over. Y’all need to find the next wave and jump on it. Most of us are well advantaged on the scams y’all still attempting to do but failing and struggling all across the board. It’s a chop sus!
  19. How do we support and help men who deal and battle with internalized homophobia? Whether if they're dealing with an internal battle with their sexuality or pressure from relatives and friends. Being gay is hard enough but it's extremely hard when you don't understand yourself or can't completely accept who you truly are. I've known several gay guys who came from religious households and were heavily involved in the church. Some of those men were extremely damaged, hurt, broken and in-denial. A lot of closeted gay men just couldn't embrace their truth. They often feel guilty and even question their sexuality. When in fact they know their true desires. It's painful to see a lot of these gay men dealing with internalized homophobia. It's almost like watching a person become self-destructive with no solution. That type of fight is long going and horrified. What methods could these guys use to overcome or even find the strength to face their struggles head-on? I know some would say seeking help from professionals. What do you guys think? I think self love is not always learned but can be found with some deep soul searching. A lot of gay men do not take enough time to love themselves. We have a lot of hurt people chasing love from all the wrong places. The most love comes from within before any other source out here.
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