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Dear Gays | Microwavable Relationships | Lets Talk!

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The question of the day for many of you reading this article is why (A strong why!) do you guys feel gay relationships are so complicated?

I’m curious to find out why so many of our gay brothers struggle at building or maintaining relationships.

(Don’t be shy — you can leave a comment about this as well.)

Every time I go on Facebook or IG these gay couples are switching up and swooping new partners every other week or month.

Nothing seems stable and most of these couples fail to connect to each other outside of smoking and sex.

These microwaveable relationships are toxic.

These microwavable relationships will be the downfall of our future.

These microwaveable relationships are sky-high trending in our community.

Everything is so fast pace from the talking phase to the meeting to fucking to jumping in love prematurely.

A lot of these gay men (some of you reading this as well!) jump from one dick to the next in a short period of time.

Some of y’all be jumping from dick to dick just to get the last dick taste off your tongue.

I’ve seen some gays with a new boyfriend every two weeks. Some of you don’t even wash your sheets as often as you find a new man. No shade but shade, Pooh!

We have to stop getting in relationships that we are not willing to nurture or grow into over time. The issue is when we have to remember not to be so quick to throw in the towel at the slightest issue or problem that we may often come across in the relationship.

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But the biggest factor for all these microwavable relationships is due to many gays searching for the love that they lack within themselves.

Bang bang!!! Yeah, I went all the way the fuck in. If it hit you hard just now, you know it’s the truth too.

You running from one man to the next in hopes of finding love but you don’t see that YOU ARE the main factor in all of your relationship mess.

Instead of building strong relationships a lot of you treat dating as if you’re at a speed dating event. The only issue is y’all already supposedly established the relationship with the person and now you onto the next guy just as fast.

The same issues going to keep surfacing in every relationship you jump into overnight because you not taking time to get to know these men nor yourself.

I have been there and I’ve done it and I can confess to not being able to honestly love myself first.

You want to love everybody but your own self cause you will have to face your own insecurities or issues.

You think you’ve found somebody to take on those challenges but you only end up meeting yourself in that other person.

You think they going to love you for you and love you through your pain. They don’t because just like you they don’t often know how to love themselves either.

So we have a lot of guys chasing love from everybody else but themselves first and foremost. Some of these men struggle with identity issues, abandonment, trauma and more from their childhood oftentimes relating to their sexuality.

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So how do you expect hurt people not to hurt you too?

How do you expect hurt people who don’t love themselves or know themselves enough to love and genuinely get to know you?

The truth is they not going to be willing to fight for you as you should fight for yourself.

Most guys who run from relationship to relationship do not take a moment to stop and realize they running from all of their own problems.

The only result you will get is a cycle of dysfunctional microwavable relationships back to back. Just a new dick to conquer only to end up back single with a wet ass and nothing to show for it.

In order for a relationship to work, you need to work on yourself before building the relationship.

Guys, we need to stop pointing our fingers at every guy we deal with but also notice that we also have to focus on our involvement as well.

That’s not the case for everybody but even staying with a guy who ain’t shit is just as toxic.

If you with a man and you can’t tell him about shit or the obvious baggage he’s carried into your current relationship then give it up now.

Why would you stay in a bad relationship? What happened in your past relationship(s) for you to tolerate the current negative one?

Microwavable relationships do not benefit either party involved. If anything you both end up losing more than gaining by the end of the quick romance. It doesn’t last because most of the time neither of you has anything to bring to the table or to offer outside of the bedroom.

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Dear Gays | Dating Transmen

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Dear Gays | Would You Date A Trans Man?

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Tiq Milan is the first trans man of color I discovered and I was completely discombobulated because I couldn’t believe that he was born as female. He looked like an average man but just sexier than the average guy (LOL).

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After I did my research I found other trans men in my honest opinion way more attractive than most guys and I was shooketh!

I am attracted to the male physique so anything that looks, moves or acts like a man will attract me.

As I started to find myself intrigued by trans men, I started to ask around if other gay men were attracted to them as well.

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I think trans men are amazing and their journey is often not highlighted enough. I feel like a lot of trans men are often slept on because of the whole “biologically female” thing gets in the way.

Once again, I don’t focus on anything more than what I see and if I see a man, I’m attracted.

Now, this is when I speak on the trans women because I feel like when a straight man sees a trans woman he sees a woman. So if he’s attracted to women he will initially be zoned in and focused on her.

The dangers of that as we already know is the fact that her being trans defeats his fantasy. He feels some type of way and feel the need to lash out.

As a gay man when I see a man I’m either going to be attracted to that individual or not.

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I always wanted to date a trans man and I’ve had a few potential opportunities. But to be honest, if I could find a trans man that’s willing to start a family and give birth than I might settle down with him.

I’m open-minded and trans men are some of the coolest men around! They always show me, mad love, and I love calling them Papi and zaddy! Lol.

A beautiful trans man I found on Tumblr.

If you noticed I posted a poll for you guys to vote if you would or wouldn’t date a trans man.

Unfortunately, a lot of guys I’ve spoken with weren’t open to the idea of dating trans men. The good part of that is the fact that it means more choices for me! 😛 

Shoutout to all the trans men out there doing their thing and being unapologetically themselves.

And for those of you who love trans men too, keep supporting these gents!

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Gay Dating Deal Breakers | Gays Listen Up!

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Everybody has a set of deal breakers that they can tolerate or rather not deal with at all. The GAYS have a set of dealbreakers as well and I think ours are more STRICTER and sometimes superficial.

When it comes to deal-breakers I think it’s more so a personal preference of what you’re willing to overlook or even compromise. I find that a lot of us tolerate a lot just to say we got love and often we end up regretting that decision because it always comes back to bite us in the ass.

There’s nothing wrong with knowing what you will put up with and what you will not accept while entertaining a guy or getting into a new relationship.

I would say we deal with more than we should but that’s just my opinion. This is my list of deal-breakers that I have and I noticed other gays often complain about as well.

Manwhores (Dating/Sleeping With Everybody And Their Gay Ass Uncle)

I feel like guys who want to be available to all types of folks should remain single. Nobody wants to waste time getting to know a man if he’s with any and everybody else. It’s a big ass deal breaker for me to know that you still out here roaming random bedrooms. But then again, a lot of guys won’t share with you how many asses and dicks they jumped on within the last 24 hours.

Inconsistent Men’s

Nothing is worse than an inconsistent man. Somebody who comes and goes like the wind only to pop back up as if nothing is wrong. You could tell him time and time again about his inconsistency but somehow he’ll always slip back into his old ways no matter what. These men tend to more talk than show and they usually lack the ability to understand how their inconsistency affects you.

“Complicated Relationship Status” Low Key Taken

How many of you been in the company of a married man? Well not always, married but taken? They claim they single but the truth is they’re in a complicated relationship but still involved with somebody.

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It’s easy for these men to play games cause usually, they get away with the shit. These men always seem to wanna entertain us. The only way of finding out the truth is by them exposing it themselves. These men go to great extremes to hide a lot including their true relationship status.

Stank Dick / Funky Ass

A big deal-breaker is a funky-ass man who doesn’t clean his ass, balls, mouth or armpits. We have to make these men responsible for their lack of proper hygiene.

There are no excuses for a man to be walking around with a stench of funk coming from his ass or balls. It’s a serious issue and concern but a lot of these men seem to be careless about these things apparently.

Lack Of Sense OF Humor

Nothing ruins a potential relationship or dating situationship more than a boring-ass man. A guy with no sense of humor will always get the X.

Nobody wants to talk to and be around a damn boring ass man. I just recently told a guy (I was talking to) that I was completely bored on the phone with his boring ass. I immediately felt bad so I corrected myself but it slipped out and well let’s just say he’s not boring me anymore. BLOOP.

Low Sex Drive

I know this may seem very superficial and for some of you it kind of is, but I personally have a high sex drive and it’s a deal-breaker if you can’t keep up with my sexual needs.

Don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t completely dismiss a person but there would have to be a serious discussion regarding our sexual needs and any conflictual factors between us.

Doesn’t Know How To Hold A Conversation

A man that can’t hold a conversation is a problem in my opinion. One of the biggest deal-breakers is dealing with a man that can’t hold or carry a conversation or depend on you to do it for him.

A relationship depends on communication and one of the main types of communication is opening your fucking mouth and allowing the words to come out.

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I can’t force somebody to talk and if I have to I don’t want any parts of you.

Glued To His Phone 24/7

A clear sign of BS is when a man is glued to his phone. If you’re in my presence and you focused on your phone we have a serious issue. I refuse to give any man my focus if he’s focused on everything else but me.

It seems like a lot of these guys are phone addicted and social media tends to be the issue for their cellular addiction.

No Inspirations OR Goals

Dating a guy with no goals or inspirations is usually pointless. A man with no ambitions can’t carry the relationship nor help its growth.

A relationship will require goals and change and if a person can’t even inspire to do big things then they have nothing to offer in the relationship.

Doesn’t Give Sloppy Toppy!

Head is a must for me and I wouldn’t take it any other way. A man who doesn’t give oral is like dating a guy who doesn’t kiss. For me, it’s a complete deal-breaker. Foreplay is needed or else it’s going to be a bland ass sexual encounter and boring ass sex life.

Liars AKA Lying King

Nothing is worse than trying to date a liar or a man that can’t tell the damn truth! Nothing tops this shit.

A liar is a snake and a snake will attack you when you least expect it.

Not Willing To Compromise

Everybody and their gay ass uncle know that relationships are filled with compromises.

A relationship wouldn’t be real if both partners didn’t give up something to earn something in return.

Abusive Behavior

Abuse is not tolerable in any relationship I don’t care if it’s romantic or a Platonic friendship.

Violence is not acceptable, whatsoever! If there’s ever a time when violence is warranted than end the relationship or learn how to keep your damn hands to yourself.

Homonormative Focused

If a man starts a relationship with me based on homonormative views than it’s not going to work for us.

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I feel like we should be equal in and outside of the bedroom. There’s no other way around it for me.

Not Out The Closet And Don’t Plan On Ever Coming Out

A deal-breaker for a lot of gays is dealing with a down low man who doesn’t plan on coming out of the closet. Not saying it’s cool to rush him out but at some point what are we doing?

We in this shit for the long haul or is this just temporary situationship?

Overly Masculine Addicted!

If a guy is focused on masculinity especially if it’s toxic masculinity it’s a problem.

Whether if he’s masculine or interested in masculine men, you should know if the other person is that or not from the jump. I don’t understand the point of pressing your views or desires on other people to become more masculine than they are or willing to be.

Asking For Nudes Within 10 Minutes Of Meeting Or Chatting

Don’t ask me for nudes when we just start talking it’s rude as fuck. I don’t care how intrigued you are or interested I will most definitely block you by the end of the night.

Asking Me For Money

Nothing turns me off more than a man who asks me for money. Idk maybe because I never had a man give me money or ask for it but it’s a deal-breaker.

What makes it even worse is the fact sometimes they only entertain you to get money out of you. Smh.

Claiming To Wanna Get To Know Me But Low Key Wanna Fuck Only

If your intentions were to fuck than make that be known. Nothing frustrates me more than knowing that a guy pretending to want something legitimate when he low key plotting just to fuck. Make your purpose be known and be honest about the shit.

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Dear Gays | What Happened To Monogamy?

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In the last year, I’ve come across quite a few guys who are interested in open relationships or already were in open relationships and seeking another partner.

I have nothing against guys who practice polygamy or polyamory. You can’t do anything but respect a person’s lifestyle choice.

For me, monogamy is the goal, which I’ve stated before in my previous post: https://justbeinganthony.com/my-quest-for-monogamy-that-is-slowly-opening-my-mind-to-the-idea-of-polyamory/

Fellas, do you guys believe in monogamy anymore?

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Sometimes I do toy around with the idea of experiencing something new.

I love the rawness of polyamory relationships.

For a person to be open and honest about their wants and needs while still serving commitment is hard to find.

A lot of you have been in a polyamory relationship and didn’t know about it and still not aware of the truth.

For a man to be outright honest about his desires is respectable.

I rather know what’s going on than to have him go behind my back and do his dirt.

At this point, I’m open to the idea but I also mentioned the fact it will take a long time before I rush into a polyamorous relationship.

It’s crazy how so many of us think we’re in monogamous relationships when in reality it’s damn near polyamorous.

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We assume our partners are faithful and doing right by us. The truth is that sometimes they aren’t doing right by us.

So where do we go wrong when it comes to having monogamous relationships?

Have any of us ever truly had a monogamous relationship?

It seems like no matter how hard so many of us try to have these perfect relationships it never seems to last long.

The idea of having a monogamous relationship to have a successful life-lasting love story. The goal would be to grow old with our partners and build memories. But those ideas of romance seem so far from reality nowadays.

We’re lucky enough to get a year span with a lot of these men. You’re extremely lucky if you get 6 months in with no issues or complications.

I still believe in love even if it takes other lifestyles to find it.

I understand people’s desire of wanting to experiment and try different stuff. There’s nothing wrong with polyamorous or monogamous relationships. Love is love and if a person honestly loves you it doesn’t matter in what form they show or deliver it.

It’s hard for a lot of us to find genuine love so I’m not anti polyamorous. I’m anti lies, deceit, and bullshit.

There’s a huge chance that a large percentage of gay men will be converting over into the polyamorous lifestyle in the coming years.

It seems like in the direction we’re going in with monogamy a lot of us will have to accept and embrace the reality of us conforming to new styles of relationships.

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But I believe a small select few guys will still appreciate having a monogamous relationship or not having any relationships at all.

That’s my opinion on this topic. I’m sure some of you agree or even disagree with me on it. Don’t say I didn’t predict this coming! Lol. Share with me how you guys feel about the lack of monogamy in the gay community.

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