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Dear Gays | Don’t Lose Hope In Looking For Love!

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This morning, I came across this tweet that intrigued me!

One of the reasons why it grabbed my attention because I too feel this way.

As many of you know my dating life these past few years has been hell.

Last year I got back with my ex from Philly and it didn’t go well. He randomly disappeared when I needed him the most. I was dealing with some personal shit and he was nowhere to be found.

I completely relate to their experience. Dating has not been fun and even down to the communication, I feel no excitement half the time.

I remember years ago being thrilled to get to know a guy. That rush that feeling of newness. But nowadays everything you expect is expected and nothing is new.

The feeling of talking to these men ain’t new, the sex ain’t new, etc. nothing out here is mind-blowing in a big way of viewing things.

Sometimes it feels like if you’ve had one guy you’ve had them all.

I miss the way things were prior to the big explosion of online dating. I miss the days of meeting a guy and not to fuck in the back of his car or sneak into his parent’s house. I used to love having long talks on the phone and not hear clicking from his side because he’s also texting or on apps talking to other guys too.

A lot of stuff has changed about dating as expected but certain things have changed for the worse.

Dating should be fun and meeting new people shouldn’t feel like a drive-thru exchange. Why would I want to waste time talking to a person only one time and maybe twice if lucky?

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It seems like the only way to generate consistent communication is if your offering sex and your body. Trust these guys will be all in your DMs faithfully. But mention getting to know them, building something of substance they flee and gone just as fast as they showed up.

Everything feels so copy and paste nowadays! But I don’t want you guys to lose hope or faith. I don’t want you to feel like you have to just go with the trend to fit in. You don’t have to fuck just because that’s the first thing expected of you. We need more men to be the example that there are still good men left.

It may seem like there are no options left but trust me there are if you dig deep enough. Usually, the mess and garbage float at the top of the sea but the treasure can be found at the bottom. You have to eliminate the fuckboys and keep searching for a good man.

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Dear Gays | Dating Transmen

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Dear Gays | Would You Date A Trans Man?

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Tiq Milan is the first trans man of color I discovered and I was completely discombobulated because I couldn’t believe that he was born as female. He looked like an average man but just sexier than the average guy (LOL).

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https://justbeinganthony.com/trans-men-of-color-who-are-queer-and-proud-of-it/

After I did my research I found other trans men in my honest opinion way more attractive than most guys and I was shooketh!

I am attracted to the male physique so anything that looks, moves or acts like a man will attract me.

As I started to find myself intrigued by trans men, I started to ask around if other gay men were attracted to them as well.

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I think trans men are amazing and their journey is often not highlighted enough. I feel like a lot of trans men are often slept on because of the whole “biologically female” thing gets in the way.

Once again, I don’t focus on anything more than what I see and if I see a man, I’m attracted.

Now, this is when I speak on the trans women because I feel like when a straight man sees a trans woman he sees a woman. So if he’s attracted to women he will initially be zoned in and focused on her.

The dangers of that as we already know is the fact that her being trans defeats his fantasy. He feels some type of way and feel the need to lash out.

As a gay man when I see a man I’m either going to be attracted to that individual or not.

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I always wanted to date a trans man and I’ve had a few potential opportunities. But to be honest, if I could find a trans man that’s willing to start a family and give birth than I might settle down with him.

I’m open-minded and trans men are some of the coolest men around! They always show me, mad love, and I love calling them Papi and zaddy! Lol.

A beautiful trans man I found on Tumblr.

If you noticed I posted a poll for you guys to vote if you would or wouldn’t date a trans man.

Unfortunately, a lot of guys I’ve spoken with weren’t open to the idea of dating trans men. The good part of that is the fact that it means more choices for me! 😛 

Shoutout to all the trans men out there doing their thing and being unapologetically themselves.

And for those of you who love trans men too, keep supporting these gents!

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Gay Dating Deal Breakers | Gays Listen Up!

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Everybody has a set of deal breakers that they can tolerate or rather not deal with at all. The GAYS have a set of dealbreakers as well and I think ours are more STRICTER and sometimes superficial.

When it comes to deal-breakers I think it’s more so a personal preference of what you’re willing to overlook or even compromise. I find that a lot of us tolerate a lot just to say we got love and often we end up regretting that decision because it always comes back to bite us in the ass.

There’s nothing wrong with knowing what you will put up with and what you will not accept while entertaining a guy or getting into a new relationship.

I would say we deal with more than we should but that’s just my opinion. This is my list of deal-breakers that I have and I noticed other gays often complain about as well.

Manwhores (Dating/Sleeping With Everybody And Their Gay Ass Uncle)

I feel like guys who want to be available to all types of folks should remain single. Nobody wants to waste time getting to know a man if he’s with any and everybody else. It’s a big ass deal breaker for me to know that you still out here roaming random bedrooms. But then again, a lot of guys won’t share with you how many asses and dicks they jumped on within the last 24 hours.

Inconsistent Men’s

Nothing is worse than an inconsistent man. Somebody who comes and goes like the wind only to pop back up as if nothing is wrong. You could tell him time and time again about his inconsistency but somehow he’ll always slip back into his old ways no matter what. These men tend to more talk than show and they usually lack the ability to understand how their inconsistency affects you.

“Complicated Relationship Status” Low Key Taken

How many of you been in the company of a married man? Well not always, married but taken? They claim they single but the truth is they’re in a complicated relationship but still involved with somebody.

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It’s easy for these men to play games cause usually, they get away with the shit. These men always seem to wanna entertain us. The only way of finding out the truth is by them exposing it themselves. These men go to great extremes to hide a lot including their true relationship status.

Stank Dick / Funky Ass

A big deal-breaker is a funky-ass man who doesn’t clean his ass, balls, mouth or armpits. We have to make these men responsible for their lack of proper hygiene.

There are no excuses for a man to be walking around with a stench of funk coming from his ass or balls. It’s a serious issue and concern but a lot of these men seem to be careless about these things apparently.

Lack Of Sense OF Humor

Nothing ruins a potential relationship or dating situationship more than a boring-ass man. A guy with no sense of humor will always get the X.

Nobody wants to talk to and be around a damn boring ass man. I just recently told a guy (I was talking to) that I was completely bored on the phone with his boring ass. I immediately felt bad so I corrected myself but it slipped out and well let’s just say he’s not boring me anymore. BLOOP.

Low Sex Drive

I know this may seem very superficial and for some of you it kind of is, but I personally have a high sex drive and it’s a deal-breaker if you can’t keep up with my sexual needs.

Don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t completely dismiss a person but there would have to be a serious discussion regarding our sexual needs and any conflictual factors between us.

Doesn’t Know How To Hold A Conversation

A man that can’t hold a conversation is a problem in my opinion. One of the biggest deal-breakers is dealing with a man that can’t hold or carry a conversation or depend on you to do it for him.

A relationship depends on communication and one of the main types of communication is opening your fucking mouth and allowing the words to come out.

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I can’t force somebody to talk and if I have to I don’t want any parts of you.

Glued To His Phone 24/7

A clear sign of BS is when a man is glued to his phone. If you’re in my presence and you focused on your phone we have a serious issue. I refuse to give any man my focus if he’s focused on everything else but me.

It seems like a lot of these guys are phone addicted and social media tends to be the issue for their cellular addiction.

No Inspirations OR Goals

Dating a guy with no goals or inspirations is usually pointless. A man with no ambitions can’t carry the relationship nor help its growth.

A relationship will require goals and change and if a person can’t even inspire to do big things then they have nothing to offer in the relationship.

Doesn’t Give Sloppy Toppy!

Head is a must for me and I wouldn’t take it any other way. A man who doesn’t give oral is like dating a guy who doesn’t kiss. For me, it’s a complete deal-breaker. Foreplay is needed or else it’s going to be a bland ass sexual encounter and boring ass sex life.

Liars AKA Lying King

Nothing is worse than trying to date a liar or a man that can’t tell the damn truth! Nothing tops this shit.

A liar is a snake and a snake will attack you when you least expect it.

Not Willing To Compromise

Everybody and their gay ass uncle know that relationships are filled with compromises.

A relationship wouldn’t be real if both partners didn’t give up something to earn something in return.

Abusive Behavior

Abuse is not tolerable in any relationship I don’t care if it’s romantic or a Platonic friendship.

Violence is not acceptable, whatsoever! If there’s ever a time when violence is warranted than end the relationship or learn how to keep your damn hands to yourself.

Homonormative Focused

If a man starts a relationship with me based on homonormative views than it’s not going to work for us.

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I feel like we should be equal in and outside of the bedroom. There’s no other way around it for me.

Not Out The Closet And Don’t Plan On Ever Coming Out

A deal-breaker for a lot of gays is dealing with a down low man who doesn’t plan on coming out of the closet. Not saying it’s cool to rush him out but at some point what are we doing?

We in this shit for the long haul or is this just temporary situationship?

Overly Masculine Addicted!

If a guy is focused on masculinity especially if it’s toxic masculinity it’s a problem.

Whether if he’s masculine or interested in masculine men, you should know if the other person is that or not from the jump. I don’t understand the point of pressing your views or desires on other people to become more masculine than they are or willing to be.

Asking For Nudes Within 10 Minutes Of Meeting Or Chatting

Don’t ask me for nudes when we just start talking it’s rude as fuck. I don’t care how intrigued you are or interested I will most definitely block you by the end of the night.

Asking Me For Money

Nothing turns me off more than a man who asks me for money. Idk maybe because I never had a man give me money or ask for it but it’s a deal-breaker.

What makes it even worse is the fact sometimes they only entertain you to get money out of you. Smh.

Claiming To Wanna Get To Know Me But Low Key Wanna Fuck Only

If your intentions were to fuck than make that be known. Nothing frustrates me more than knowing that a guy pretending to want something legitimate when he low key plotting just to fuck. Make your purpose be known and be honest about the shit.

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Dear Gays | What Happened To Monogamy?

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In the last year, I’ve come across quite a few guys who are interested in open relationships or already were in open relationships and seeking another partner.

I have nothing against guys who practice polygamy or polyamory. You can’t do anything but respect a person’s lifestyle choice.

For me, monogamy is the goal, which I’ve stated before in my previous post: https://justbeinganthony.com/my-quest-for-monogamy-that-is-slowly-opening-my-mind-to-the-idea-of-polyamory/

Fellas, do you guys believe in monogamy anymore?

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Sometimes I do toy around with the idea of experiencing something new.

I love the rawness of polyamory relationships.

For a person to be open and honest about their wants and needs while still serving commitment is hard to find.

A lot of you have been in a polyamory relationship and didn’t know about it and still not aware of the truth.

For a man to be outright honest about his desires is respectable.

I rather know what’s going on than to have him go behind my back and do his dirt.

At this point, I’m open to the idea but I also mentioned the fact it will take a long time before I rush into a polyamorous relationship.

It’s crazy how so many of us think we’re in monogamous relationships when in reality it’s damn near polyamorous.

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We assume our partners are faithful and doing right by us. The truth is that sometimes they aren’t doing right by us.

So where do we go wrong when it comes to having monogamous relationships?

Have any of us ever truly had a monogamous relationship?

It seems like no matter how hard so many of us try to have these perfect relationships it never seems to last long.

The idea of having a monogamous relationship to have a successful life-lasting love story. The goal would be to grow old with our partners and build memories. But those ideas of romance seem so far from reality nowadays.

We’re lucky enough to get a year span with a lot of these men. You’re extremely lucky if you get 6 months in with no issues or complications.

I still believe in love even if it takes other lifestyles to find it.

I understand people’s desire of wanting to experiment and try different stuff. There’s nothing wrong with polyamorous or monogamous relationships. Love is love and if a person honestly loves you it doesn’t matter in what form they show or deliver it.

It’s hard for a lot of us to find genuine love so I’m not anti polyamorous. I’m anti lies, deceit, and bullshit.

There’s a huge chance that a large percentage of gay men will be converting over into the polyamorous lifestyle in the coming years.

It seems like in the direction we’re going in with monogamy a lot of us will have to accept and embrace the reality of us conforming to new styles of relationships.

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But I believe a small select few guys will still appreciate having a monogamous relationship or not having any relationships at all.

That’s my opinion on this topic. I’m sure some of you agree or even disagree with me on it. Don’t say I didn’t predict this coming! Lol. Share with me how you guys feel about the lack of monogamy in the gay community.

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