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No Expectations, No Disappointments!

I can’t stand it when a guy tells me “no expectations, no disappointments.”

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The first thing that pops up in my mind is him fucking me and then ghosting me. From my experience, guys who have no expectations have no plans on taking things further than just talking or sexing.

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I find most guys who say this use this same line with every guy they meet. It's almost a short-cut and an excuse to skeet and leave. While I know some guys are just scared of being disappointed. Most of these men know exactly what they doing by saying this shit.

I feel like if you come into the situation with the mindset of getting played and used they only get what they can from you and they ghost your ass.

 

 

If you don’t have any expectations then what we doing this for?

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I wouldn’t talk to a person if I didn’t have any expectations for them even if things don’t work out. A doubtful mind can only disappoint somebody, eventually. I don’t want a man who doesn’t see the full potential in me or a potential relationship.

In most cases, the disappointment comes moments after stating “no expectations no disappointments.” I find myself disappointed. 

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The issue is nobody nowadays want to enter the dating experience with high hopes. They immediately place up a wall or think the most negative shit possible only to ruin any chances of things to potentially, grow. They get so caught up in their thoughts to where they end up just talking to other people out of fear of you doing the same thing.

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Then before you know it — the both of you end up losing contact and ghosting each other.

It seems like the days of actually putting in the work to build a connection and relationship are far behind us (except for a few good men left.)

Nowadays it’s so easy to find the next guy in a matter of seconds via an app.

A lot of guys will feel the need to have a “no expectations, no disappointment” mentality because of the climate of dating in the gay community is forever declining. It’s hard out here to find guys who won’t ghost you within 24 hours of actually meeting or chatting online. Everybody comes with an agenda and most of the good ones are so hard to find it's sad.

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I just rather talk to somebody who is optimistic and interested in me than somebody who’s doubtful of me or themselves.