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Fuck Sex: Can I Share With You, What I Got On My Mind?

Sometimes I feel like sex overpowers a true connection when it comes to gay men. Like the first thing that comes to mind is if they can fuck you or not and everything else comes after.

While I understand the sexual chemistry is an important factor for many of you, what happened to the mental and emotional aspects of dating first?

Why must we resort to sex before connecting on a deeper level?

How about even a spiritual one?

Some of you done fucked people and a year later you left wondering why your world so fucking out of whack! Well, to be quite blunt, you have tied your soul with bad energy, bad vibes and downright bad people!

This is why I stopped fucking first and getting to know a person last because people's energy can stick to you. I'm not going into a long rant about this but you can do the research for yourself on it.

I wanna be able to communicate with my man about any and everything that comes to my mind, soul and my spirit. I want a connection so deep that we damn near telepathic. I believe in intertwining and becoming one with a person. Some of you have become one with the enemy and you end up being left with their baggage on you!

Sex is amazing and truly a beautiful experience for all mankind. The issue is when we abuse sex and make all aspects of dating based on sex and sex only. You can not connect to one's heart and soul strictly by sexing your way there! If you feel that way then good luck to you. I rather take the long route and benefit from it.

Sex may lead you to places quicker than a traditional way of doing things, but it may end just as fast as it started for you.

We have to stop sexualizing everything about each other. We are more than sexual objects we are human beings living our truths and experiencing the human experience. So, of course, we will fall short and under the influence of temptation. I just want you guys to know that sex can be your greatest tool or the biggest obstacle in life and dating experiences.

People don't understand how sex can be addictive to the point of one losing their true identity to it. Sex can consume your mind so bad that you become enslaved to it. Sex addiction is real and a very serious matter. I don't want to go too deep into that. I just wanted to scratch the surface of it.

The more we focus on sex the less likely we're be-able to actually connect to each other on a deeper level.

E.G. have you ever fucked on the first day of meeting a guy and soon after it's done and over you left with nothing to say?

After the sexual encounter you just have no type of connection or chemistry with that person?

We have become so focused on sex that even after we get it, it leaves no room for romantic imagination or even interest in the person.

I've fucked a lot of guys on the first date and the only result I got was a wet ass and dick and maybe a callback for round two.

Nobody wants to take you seriously after that initial sexual encounter.

For some of you, yeah you may fell in love after, but for the majority of us it doesn't work that way. But then again, most of them never was in love with you cause it was all about the lust!

If you planning on building a relationship don't build it off of lust! It's nothing but a waste of time and I don't care if you get the guy! Eventually, he'll cheat because he only found himself attracted to you sexually and not mentally!

If you can't mentally win a man's heart and mind but feel the need to depend on your body then you will always be disappointed with dating.

You won't ever win by losing!

Giving your body away and becoming sexualized by him will only result in you losing!

Like Nene said: You don't ever win playing dirty!

You might get a token or a prize but all good things come to an end.

What started out as amazing will not remain that way over time.

I don't care how good your dick game, bussy grip, jaw lock skills you got. If you can't depend on your mental to win him over nothing else will matter or sustain him. Even if it lasts for a moment and some quick seconds. You won't win his heart. But congrats if you felt like you won his body! Smh.

We have to do better so we can become greater than we were in our yesteryears. I hear the cries about the singleness and how heartbroken many of you are with dating, but you gotta do the work. The work does not require much of you other then you doing it honestly.

You want a man to take you seriously then present yourself in a serious way. You can wait to earn his body, and vice versa. You don't have to show him your throat skills and ass tricks. Allow him to work and earn it so he can appreciate it.

Nobody going to appreciate something you giving out for free like it's a hot commodity.

Remember quality over quantity. It's not about how many dicks and how much asses you get it's about the individuals that can remain yours. You can date 50 men and fuck them all and not one of those guys going to stay after.

The way we present ourselves is the way these other men will treat us.

If you want a man to see you as a sexual piece of meat then go ahead. Everybody not invested in love or a relationship. But if you want a man to see you on a deeper level then you will change your mind about dating and then alter your perception regarding sex. It shouldn't be the be all end all option for you. Allow your mind to be the reason for him to chase you, not your body!

A mind is a terrible thing to waste!

There's a lot of mindless men just sexing around and getting nothing from it. It's an ongoing cycle and they act as if they don't understand why these men fuck and do not stay.

Once you've aroused him, and you got him off — his mental switches. The lust he had for you is now gone and he's left with shame or guilt. But if you can get a man to communicate and interact with you outside of the bedroom then you can connect to his mental! You can engage with him on a bigger scale. Let your mind lead you to places your body won't!

I'll let that sink in! Think about it!

Food for thought!